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Should I Tell My Wife About The Affair Even Though It Is Over?

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1 year 3 months ago

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It was me that asked this question 541 days ago. I never did tell her about it. If I had told her she would have left me and no good would have come from it. I was going to tell her but I couldn't do it. It taught me never to cheat again.

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?A LITTLE INACCURACY SOMETIMES SAVES TONS OF EXPLANATION.?

THIS comment illustrates how many people feel about lying. Their rationale is that lying is not wrong if it does not harm anyone. Such reasoning even has an academic name?situation ethics, which says that the only law you need to follow is the so-called law of love. In other words, explains author Diane Komp, ?if your motivation is right and your heart is right (then the) fact that you lied .?.?. is no big deal.?

Such a viewpoint is common in today?s world. Scandals involving lies told by prominent politicians and other world leaders have rocked society. Influenced by this climate, many people have relaxed their commitment to telling the truth. In some domains lying has even become official policy. ?I?m paid to lie. I win sales contests and get rave annual reviews if I lie. .?.?. This seems to be the core of retail sales training everywhere,? complains one salesclerk. Many believe that there is no real harm in so-called little white lies. Is this true? Are there occasions when Christians may be justified in telling a lie?

The Bible?s Exalted?Standard

The Bible roundly condemns all sorts of lying. ?[God] will destroy those speaking a lie,? declares the psalmist. (Psalm 5:6; see Revelation 22:15.) At Proverbs 6:16-19, the Bible lists seven things that Jehovah detests. ?A false tongue? and ?a false witness that launches forth lies? are prominently included in this list. Why? Because Jehovah hates the harm falsehood causes. That is one reason why Jesus called Satan a liar and a manslayer. His lies plunged humanity into misery and death.?Genesis 3:4,?5; John 8:44; Romans 5:12.

Just how seriously Jehovah views lying is highlighted by what happened to Ananias and Sapphira. These two deliberately lied to the apostles in an apparent attempt to appear more generous than they really were. Their action was deliberate and premeditated. The apostle Peter thus declared: ?You have played false, not to men, but to God.? For this, they both died at God?s hand.?Acts 5:1-10.

Years later the apostle Paul admonished Christians: ?Do not be lying to one another.? (Colossians 3:9) This exhortation is particularly vital in the Christian congregation. Jesus said that principled love would be the identifying mark of his true followers. (John 13:34, 35) Such unhypocritical love can only grow and flourish in an environment of complete honesty and trust. It is difficult to love someone if we cannot be confident that he will always tell us the truth.

Columnist Clifford Longley correctly notes: ?Lies hurt the liar and the lied-to, at the profoundest level of their being, by severing that essential contact between mind and reality.? The American Journal of Psychiatry states: ?The psychological impact on persons on the receiving end of lies can be devastating. Major life decisions may be based on false information believed to be correct. Lies may also have adverse effects on liars themselves.? How much better to tell the truth, as the Bible wisely counsels!
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